Abuse. The first step in recognizing it.
What is relationship VIOLENCE?
Violence in a relationship is commonly referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV) and/or domestic violence (DV). IPV is a pattern of behaviors that are coercive, manipulative, and isolating in a way that limits one person‘s access to safety and resources; these tactics are used to maintain power and control within a relationship.
Intimate Partner Violence Includes:
- Verbal Abuse: Criticizing, blaming, threatening, degrading or belittling.
- Emotional Abuse: Making you feel embarrassed in front of others, ignoring you or withholding affection, ridiculing, isolating you from others, or making false promises.
- Financial Abuse: Controlling money, withholding child support, destroying property, running up debts or destroying credit.
- Sexual Abuse: Forcing unwanted sex, making constant sexual demands, coercing sex in order to prevent a fight, or refusing to respect sexual boundaries.
- Physical Abuse: Pushing, choking, kicking, burning, or locking in/out of the house.
Does your partner or partners:
- Embarrass or put you down?
- Shove, slap, or hit you?
- Control your every move?
- Destroy your property?
- Prevent you from working?
- Act extremely jealous?
Are you experiencing violence at home?
Know that you do NOT cause abuse to happen. Only the person or persons abusing you are responsible for their actions.
- You don’t have to be isolated. Develop a support network, tell close friends or family members whom you trust, or call BRAVO.
- Document and report abusive incidents. Keep a log including the date, location, and what the abusive person(s) SAID and DID. Include witnesses, medical records, police reports, and pictures of injuries. Keep all documents in a safe place where the abuser(s) will not have access to them.
- Make Safety Plans to protect yourself at home, at work, and in your car. Remember that a legal protection order may help, but it is not fool proof.
- Get information on IPV/DV resources in your area and your legal rights and options.
- Or contact Shinesha Yoder, BRAVO Victim Servcies Advocate
BRAVO Lgbtqi Intimate partner VIOLENCE PEER SUPPORT GROUP
Sometimes talking to others who have been through the same thing helps. Our support groups join survivors to work through their healing process. For additional information contact our Victim Services Coordinator at 614.294.7867
For national and local intimate partner violence/hate and bias violence statistics see the reports section of our website